Women Initiate Divorce Much More Than Men, Here's Why
By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. Psychology Today Posted Aug 28 2015
Wives report more dissatisfaction with their marriages than their husbands.
Some new data about divorce and non-marital breakups contains an unexpected finding, and I think it underscores the fact that we're in the midst of an ongoing evolution in what people want and seek in their romantic-relationships.
The study, based on a survey of over 2000 heterosexual couples, found that women initiated nearly 70% of all divorces. Yet there was no significant difference between the percentage of breakups initiated by women and men in non-marriage relationships.
How to explain? I find that these data are consistent with what I and others have seen clinically. When men and women seek couples therapy and then subsequently divorce; or, when either partner seeks individual therapy about a marriage conflict that ends in divorce, it’s often the woman who expresses more overt conflict and dissatisfaction about the state of the marriage. On the other hand, the man is more likely to report feeling troubled by his wife’s dissatisfaction, but pretty much "OK" with the way things are; he's content to just lope along as time passes.
In contrast, I find that younger couples – who are more likely to form non-marital but committed relationships — experience more egalitarian partnerships to begin with. When their relationship crumbles beyond repair, both experience that disintegration. Both are equally likely to address it – and part, if it can’t be healed.
These clinical observations are consistent with what the study’s lead author, Michael Rosenfeld, suggests — that women may be more likely to initiate divorces because the married women reported lower levels of relationship quality than married men. In contrast, women and men in non-marital relationships reported equal levels of relationship quality. Rosenfeld said his results support the feminist assertion that some women experience heterosexual marriage as oppressive or uncomfortable.
He adds, "I think that marriage as an institution has been a little bit slow to catch up with expectations for gender equality. Wives still take their husbands’ surnames, and are sometimes pressured to do so. Husbands still expect their wives to do the bulk of the housework and the bulk of the childcare. On the other hand, I think that non-marital relationships lack the historical baggage and expectations of marriage, which makes the non-marital relationships more flexible and therefore more adaptable to modern expectations, including women’s expectations for more gender equality."
A very interesting article, and here are some aspects sparked by this article, and also the underlying theme:
Definition of romance (noun)
1 a (1): a medieval tale based on legend, chivalric love and adventure, or the supernatural
(2) : a prose narrative treating imaginary characters involved in events remote in time or place and usually heroic, adventurous, or mysterious
(3) : a love story especially in the form of a novel
b : a class of such literature
2 : something (such as an extravagant story or account) that lacks basis in fact
3 : an emotional attraction or aura belonging to an especially heroic era, adventure, or activity
4 : love affair
1. The creative imagination; unrestrained fancy.
2. Something, such as an invention, that is a creation of the fancy.
3. A capricious or fantastic idea; a conceit.
1. The act or an instance of indulging; gratification: indulgence of every whim.
2. The state of being indulgent.
3. The act of indulging in something: indulgence in irresponsible behavior.
1. A power affecting a person, thing, or course of events, especially one that operates without any direct or apparent effort: relaxed under the influence of the music; the influence of television on modern life.
2. Power to sway or affect based on prestige, wealth, ability, or position: used her parent's influence to get the job.
3. A person who exerts influence: My parents considered my friend to be a bad influence on me.
Synonyms: act upon, work, determine, shape, mold, regulate, charm, tempt, affect, bear on, bear upon, cause, do, impact, make, persuade, touch, touch on
1. The power or quality of pleasing or delighting; attractiveness: a breezy tropical setting of great charm.
2. A particular quality that attracts; a delightful characteristic: A mischievous grin was among the child's many charms.
3. A small ornament, such as one worn on a bracelet.
1. To cause to believe what is not true; mislead. .
2. Archaic To catch by guile; ensnare.
3. To practice deceit.
Synonyms: lead on, delude, cozen, betray, lead astray, misinform, mislead, victimize
Antonyms of the word: Fantasy;... Actuality, Fact, and Reality.
Conclusion: Basis for underlying Theme; Harlotry, and the resulting Feminism, that has been created, enhanced, and propagated by Satan.
Men are predisposed to Actuality. Women are predisposed to Fantasy.
Both atmospheres have their own scope and purpose, and also are essential ingredients of Harmony. Love balances the equation, and the result is Duty, Honor, and Nobility. Which creates a fully functional Family.
But both Actuality, and Fantasy create an inherent vulnerability, this is why God established the Order, to protect the family from Satan's schemes. Which are age old, and can be traced all the way through history to the beginning.